Another fellow asked me out and
then didn’t show up on time. I waited five minutes and when he didn’t show I
left. I went home and called him. He said he’d been there. I gave him the
benefit of the doubt and went to his apartment to pick him up. I was totally
unimpressed by the way he dressed. It was a warm summer day so I’d worn a nice
lightweight denim dress. He was wearing a t-shirt with some kind of bird or
animal on it and plaid shorts. The clothing made me think of a man lounging at
home with some friends or doing his housework, not going on a first date with
an attractive lady.
We went to see “Pocahontas”,
which I chose at his request. When she and the English man met, he leaned over and
quietly said, “Ugh! Boy meets girl. Now we make baby.”
After the movie, his main topic
of conversation was sex despite my attempts to make it clear I didn’t wish to
discuss my sexual preferences. I was glad when the date was over.
The last customer at my job that
I went out with turned out to be something. I’m not sure what. He claimed to be
Christian and married, but was away from his wife because of his job and wanted
to be friends. I didn’t have a problem with that. However, his behavior said
otherwise. He kissed me a lot and told me how he coped with his sexual urges.
Then asked me how I coped with mine. I told him it was none of his business. He
protested that he’d told me how he dealt with his. I thought, “But I didn’t ask
for that information nor would I have.”
The thing that really tore it for
me though was an overnight camping trip. We slept fully clothed in the back of
his van. Periodically I would wake up to roll over and his legs would be on
mine. I couldn’t believe it. The next morning I told him I wanted to go home
that day. He took me home and on the way I noticed that his van’s exhaust fumes
had a tendency to come up into the interior where I would end up breathing them
and to make matters worse, I was very pregnant. He called me a day or so after
he took me home and I told him in no uncertain terms that I never wanted to see
him again. I only wish I could have slammed the phone in his ear, but that’s
not possible with a cordless phone.
I met a few men online. Most of
which, I didn’t meet in person for one reason or another. One of them got upset
with me one night because I didn’t respond to his e-mails right away. After
reading how upset he was, I e-mailed him back and reminded him that I had a life.
I was a single mom and a full-time college student who didn’t have time to sit
in front of a computer waiting for his e-mails. I got one more e-mail from him
saying that he was going out of town for a few days. I never heard from him
again.
A few men sent me their pictures,
though I didn’t ask. One got upset with me when my repeated attempts to e-mail
him one of me didn’t work. The others just kind of faded away.
Another one asked me in a phone
conversation if I was a good kisser. I told him I’d never had any complaints.
The question turned me off and gave me serious doubts about meeting in person.
In fact the night we were to meet, I tried to call him and call off the
meeting. Unfortunately he’d already left, so I stood him up.
Another
man I met online and then went out with was the worst kisser I ever met. He
somehow managed to bump teeth with me several times. But what really got me was
his tendency to put his hand on my breast despite my repeatedly moving it away.
When I brought it up over the phone, a few days after our date, he said he
hadn’t understood that my moving his hand away meant, “Leave my breast alone.”
I really hit the roof at that.
How could he not understand?!
I met the
last man I was supposed to go out with at church because my mother knew him. He
would make dates with me and then call me up to tell me he couldn’t make it.
Given his living situation, I understood. He was living in something of a half-way
house and there were rules he had to follow. The last time he asked me out, however,
I asked him if he was absolutely sure he could make it this time. He assured me
he could. The day and time he was to call me and let me know the exact time
came and went, there was no phone call. He finally called me a week and a half
later. When I questioned him about what happened, he said he’d gotten busy. I
replied, “Too busy to call me?”
He got rather defensive and that
was the last time we spoke. I learned
later from my mother that he’d tried to pass it off as a misunderstanding.
Considering I’d done what I could to be sure of details, there was no
misunderstanding. Mother also told me that she’d warned him not to make me mad.
I guess some people just have to learn the hard way.
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